A Polite "(K)notty Word" Sign

"(K)notty Words" in Action

Snippet from Re-Frame It Live Presentation

Articulation Proofing

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Remember to Keep Your Message Clear and Active

During a recent BNI meeting, Mary, the chapter president was reminding the group of the upcoming Visitor Day.  Unfortunately some of the phrases she used to remind the group included:

• Make sure you don't forget to invite visitors.
• Don't forget the upcoming membership drive.
• We can't fail if we keep inviting.

Taking a look at Mary's requests, I noticed the confusion that others sensed as well:

"Make sure you don't forget to invite visitors."
Registers as:
"Make sure you forget to invite visitors."

"Don't forget the upcoming membership drive."
Registers as:
"Do forget the upcoming membership drive."

"We can't fail if we keep inviting."
Registers as:
"We can fail if we keep inviting."

Her intention is to have visitors who will become new members.  Unfortunately using words like don't and can't weaken your message when it is just as easy, and so much more powerful, to make your point clearly.

When you eradicate the "(K)notty Words" - "not, don't, can't, won't, wouldn't, couldn't, shouldn't, try, but, should"--your message will be stronger, more precise, and help you attract more of what you want. Re-Frame your thoughts and retrain your brain to use empowering words like can, do, will, would and could.

The results will astound you.

At the next meeting Mary rephrased her requests to strong reminders:

• Remember to invite visitors to every meeting
• Remember the membership drive extravaganza
• When we bring in six new members during the contest we will qualify for the grand prize drawing!

Now these once passive expressions have become imperative calls to action.

Think before you Write or Speak - Part 3

Well, now we come to the Third Course in this buffet of Thinking before you Write or Speak.

We have acknowledged that:

There is Power in the Clarity of your Articulation

There is Power in the Physiology of your Articulation

......and now the two combine nicely to bring us to the third delicious morsel in this meal of Articulation.

When you have that Clarity and follow it up with appropriate Physiology, the two components coincide and then you have the synchronicity of Congruency.

THERE IS POWER IN THE CONGRUENCY OF YOUR ARTICULATION!

So, as an author or speaker, to give your reader and listener your most empowered message, focus on having Power in the Congruency of your Articulation. Focus on your empowered word choice to center on clarity, leading to a proactive physiology and top it off with a symphony of congruency.

"Communication is of the utmost importance in business, networking, and life in general and Bob Nicoll's Remember the Ice program demonstrates how powerful results can be achieved in all areas, simply by focusing on word choice. I highly recommend it to everyone."

---Dr. Ivan Misner, NY Times Best Selling Author and Founder of BNI

Congruent behavior follows congruent speech resulting from your congruent thought process......

When you have all of these ingredients moving in the direction of your desired audience, they will be able to enjoy your message. There will be a feeling of oneness with the message. Remember when Chevy Chase in Caddy Shack encouraged his protegee to "be the ball." Well, as your reader is experiencing your scintillating message, allow them to "be congruent with the message."

Allow your word choice to give them their experience of what you were thinking about as you composed it.

Thanks for reading, hope you enjoyed the three courses.